By Goddess Mia
So let’s talk about this whole “preference” thing, Royals. 🥴 Every few months some Black man decides to hop online, open his mouth, and crash all the way out — not just by saying who he’s attracted to (which is fine 👏🏾), but by degrading Black women while doing it. That’s when it stops being a preference and starts looking like internalized racism dressed up in cologne.
And let’s keep it real: this ain’t new. Historically, white supremacy has always used division as a tactic to weaken the Black community. During slavery, Black women were portrayed as “undesirable” or “hypersexual” (think Jezebel stereotype), while white women were lifted up as the ideal of “purity.” 👀 That same propaganda echoes today every time somebody says “I don’t date Black women because they’re too loud/angry/masculine.”
📊 The Numbers Don’t Lie
According to Pew Research (2017), Black men are twice as likely to intermarry as Black women (24% vs 12%). That’s not inherently a problem — love who you love 💕 — but it becomes one when the justification is tearing down your own sisters.
A 2020 OkCupid survey showed that Black women consistently receive fewer likes and messages on dating apps than any other group of women. Meanwhile, studies confirm that anti-Black bias — rooted in white beauty standards — shapes those outcomes.
Historically, divide-and-conquer has always been the playbook: Willie Lynch’s infamous 1712 letter (whether myth or not) laid out strategies of pitting “old vs young, light vs dark, male vs female” to control enslaved Africans. That blueprint still shows up today.
🧐 Let’s Call It What It Is
When you say, “I only date [insert non-Black group] because Black women are too this or too that,” what you’re really doing is reinforcing the exact stereotypes designed to break us apart. You’re not “just stating a preference.” You’re echoing 400 years of propaganda used to elevate whiteness and diminish Blackness.
It’s giving: 🗣️ “My mama Black, my grandma Black, but lemme hop online and insult them to get a pat on the head from Becky.” Sir, sit down. 🪑
✨ Humor Break (’Cause We Need It)
Imagine applying for a job and instead of saying “I prefer remote work,” you say, “I prefer remote work because office workers smell bad, eat too much at lunch, and can’t type.” 😭 THAT’S how you sound when you trash Black women while talking about your “type.”
💡 The Bigger Picture
This isn’t just about dating. It’s about how narratives are weaponized to keep us divided. If Black women are constantly painted as undesirable, angry, or unworthy, it weakens the family structure, sows distrust, and feeds into the same system that benefits from our division. That’s white supremacy doing exactly what it was designed to do.
🌻 Goddess Mia Final Thought 🌻
Black love ain’t fragile — but it is under attack. And every time a brother chooses to drag his sisters in public, he’s playing defense for a team that never wanted him to win. Love who you love — but don’t let your “preferences” become weapons against the women who’ve held this community down for centuries. Period. ✊🏾💜
📣 Goddess Mia CTA 📣
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